Self-Love: Is there a Biblical and Healthy Way to Love Ourselves?


Some people, especially those who identify themselves as Christians, feel uncomfortable when it comes to talking about self-love 

Perhaps you might ask, “Self-loveAren’t we called to deny ourselves and love our neighbors? Doesn’t the Bible say that the purpose of life is to glorify God? 

Yes, we are. Yes, it does. 

But have you ever wondered why before an airplane takes off, passengers are told to take care of their own oxygen masks before helping anyone else? Because truly, you cannot extend care and help others if you don’t care about yourself first.  

What if healthy self-love means more like that? 

What if self-love means learning how to strike a balance between loving God and the people around you and loving the beautiful person that you are? What if self-love means taking good care of your well-being so you can take good care of others, too?

Healthy self-love is knowing your worth  

Self-love does not mean worshipping yourself or prioritizing your own happiness at the expense of others. It is acknowledging your worth, beauty, and purpose.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them!” (Psalm 139:14,17 ESV) 

When seen in the Biblical perspective, there is self-love in dying to your old, sinful self (Galatians 2:20). There is self-love in embracing and living out your identity, which is wonderfully made in the image of God.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27 ESV) 

Healthy self-love is expressed with patience and humility  

Some people worry that loving themselves could come off as being arrogant or selfish. But self-love only becomes bad when it’s not rooted in the author of love – God. (1 John 4:8) 

A healthy self-love is not prideful, arrogant, nor selfish. It is not narcissist. The self-love that God wants you to achieve is far different from these negative qualities. The Bible warns the believers to not think of themselves more highly than they should (Romans 12:3). 

Instead, God’s creations are called to love Him wholeheartedly (Mark 12:30), to love neighbors (Mark 12:31), and to love themselves with patience and humility so they would be prepared for good works.  

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:10 ESV)

Ultimately, a healthy and biblical self-love is a balance of caring for one’s own needs while loving others, as said in Philippians 2:4, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

Healthy self-love is caring for your physical and emotional needs 

It is no wonder why people get this piece of advice a lot lately. 

With the pandemic, the crisis, a fast-paced society, and the ever-increasing pressure from the world – healthcare professionals are keen in reminding people to care for their physical and emotional well-being. 

Pray and ask God to help you love yourself better without compromising your love for others. Ask Him to seek your heart and transform it into a heart that pleases Him, a heart that loves him wholly.

One of life’s ironies is that sometimes, it is easier to tell others how you love them, but it could be hard to say those three words to yourselfSo, the next time you look in the mirror, tell yourself that God loves you – and that you love yourself too. 

Give yourself the love that you freely give to others. Give yourself the love that you experience from your ever-loving God. 

Allow yourself to fully experience the greatest love there is – Christ’s love. 

Are you thinking of other ways by which we can define healthy self-love? We would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below. 

If you find it hard to love yourself these days, we are here to encourage you through prayers. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or reach us through Skype (The700clubasia). 

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