On Money and Making Love: How Should Couples Talk About These During A Crisis?

Without a doubt, the COVID-19 pandemic has stalled a lot of livelihoods and has caused families struggling to ‘stay afloat’ financially. Likewise, the stress brought by the crisis could affect the ways couples keep their love alive.

Now, how can husbands and wives have ‘the talk’ without creating too much tension and compromising the relationship?

Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter and Christine Kairuz share 7 helpful tips on how married couples should talk about budgeting and making love during a crisis.

  1. Talk about your budget

Communication is key, even when – and most especially when – it involves your finances.

Talking to your spouse about money would help maximize your budget effectively and prepare the both of you for unexpected expenses.

  1. Discuss how you will manage your resources

Start an honest conversation with your spouse about your family’s current financial situation, spending habits and ways you can improve your budgeting.

What are your priorities? Is cost-cutting needed? How can you maintain your savings despite changing circumstances?

  1. Be gentle in approaching and talking to your spouse

“Man’s anger does not bring about the righteous act that God desires. God does not want anger,” shares Christine while asserting the importance of being calm when talking to your spouse. 

  1. Find time to focus and discuss important matters in your marriage

No matter how busy life gets, take a moment to talk about your feelings and the changes you experience during the pandemic. 

Peter asks, “If you don’t take time to communicate and really focus, how will you move forward especially on important matters and issues?”

  1. Understand that men and women are wired differently

While husbands are inclined to think about the action, wives, on the other hand, prefer to communicate with their husbands first before making love. Remembering that men and women think differently would help you meet each other’s needs.

  1. Communicate with your spouse to understand what is in their heart 

Communication plays a major part when it comes to romance. The tone you use and the words you choose greatly affect the outcome of your conversation with your spouse.

  1. Do your best to remember important dates like birthdays and anniversaries

Was there a time when you forgot an important date for your family like birthday or anniversary? How did it turn out? Remembering these little yet significant details make your partner feel loved and cared for. Help each other remember and celebrate these days even in the simplest yet meaningful way.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:9, NIV)

Are you experiencing a tough time in your married life? We can help you pray for your marriage! Feel free to call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8737-0700, or send in your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

Don’t miss the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk on Saturday, June 20, 2020, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page.  

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