5 Ways on How to Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Fan – Beyond Small Talk

Are you experiencing distress and difficulty in your marriage?

Maybe you need to start showing how much you appreciate and support your spouse today. Making your partner feel loved and admired result to a stronger and more vibrant relationship.

According to researchers Allen W. Barton, Ted G. Futris, Robert B. Nielse in their study Linking financial distress to marital quality: The intermediary roles of demand/withdraw and spousal gratitude expressions, “When couples are engaging in a negative conflict patterns like demand or withdrawal, expressions of gratitude and appreciation can counteract or buffer the negative effects of this type of interaction on marital stability.”

So, how do you express gratitude and appreciation? Check out these 5 actionable ways from hosts Peter and Christine Kairuz to guide you how to be your spouse’s #1 fan:

  1. Wives, admire your husband.

Show admiration by being generous with your words. You can start by saying, “I really appreciate what you do for our family.” or “I’m proud of you.” Just remember to always affirm, encourage, exhort, and comfort your husband.

  1. Wives, believe in your husband.

Believing in your husband’s abilities will energize, motivate, and inspire him to do things he has never done before. When you believe in him, you are bringing out the best in him. Then, he will have the confidence to believe in himself, too.

  1. Husbands, always praise your wife and spend quality time with her.

Don’t just praise her because of the big things she does for you. Praise your wife even in the little things as well. It will show how much you take time to notice her so don’t hold back in praising and appreciating your wife because they wholeheartedly serve you without complaining.

Moreover, don’t put limit with your time together when you date or go out. Instead, focus and give attention to your wife. It will make her feel special.

  1. Husbands, properly introduce your wife to your friends.

Honor your wife by properly introducing her to your friends when you’re in a social gathering and they don’t know her that well. Make your wife feel welcome and at home. Don’t let her feel like she’s a stranger in a crowd.

  1. Husbands, speak highly of your wife in front of others and your children.

Teach your children to praise and bless their mother by appreciating her in front of them. So that someday, when they get married, they will do the same.

Be your spouse’s biggest fan and use your words to express appreciation, admiration, and gratitude. As it says Proverbs 18:21 NKJV, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Your words can either bring courage or disappointment, esteem or pain. Choose to be the one who gives life-giving words, so you can keep your marriage alive and growing.

Let us know what you think about these tips. Join our online discussion on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel. Don’t forget to also watch Beyond Small Talk’s next webisode this coming February 15, 2020, 7pm.


  • GRACIA tiglao

    Thank you, I appreciate that, but my husband he went to Iraq to work but, 3 months ago no communication I receive I don’t know where he is. Then after 5 years, I heard a news from other people, He was in Italy and have another woman. So I cried everyday, So I have nothing to do because I have 4 kids and I have to go in my works. I just pray him only. To come back. I could not send letter because I don’t know where he is. This is happened since 1979, until now. I just pray, and I’m a servant of the Lord. I submit myself to the Lord. I did not do anything, to find him any more, I just take care my 4 kids, and now there in stable family, when he left me my eldest son is in grade six, and now he is 52 yrs old. And my youngest daughter is 42 yrs old. When he lives me 1979, that the time I know there God, that never forsake me, I submit my life to God and serve to the LORD, AND NOW USE MY AS A SERVANT, I’m happy, I attended bible study, then I become a teacher, deacons, elders, a choir member, until now, and now I’m a LAY Preacher. But because Lord bring me here at USA, I did not do what I did in Philippines. I’m hard to understand There language, I serve the Lord by attending bible study and sing as member of choir here, at Presbyterian Church. I wish to have knowledge and wisdom so that I can do everything, Lord help me to speak and understand the language of USA. I’m not fluent in English. Please add me in praying.
    Thank you.

    • You’re very much welcome, Gracia. It’s our joy to pray for you. We thank you for sharing your experience with us. James 1:5 says, If any of you lack wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. We are praying for you and your family. May the Lord bless you all and keep you safe. We pray that His joy and peace would surround you. In Jesus’ name. Amen. If you want to talk to our 24/7 prayer center our trained prayer counselor loves to pray for you personally dial our Canada/California Line at (1 626) 789-0435 anytime. God bless you.

  • Susan

    Hi iam separated for 6yrs i want to restore my family.

    Sincerely yours

    • There is power in prayer, Susan. It’s our joy to pray for you. Continue to delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Hold on to the word of God in Joel 2:25 “I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm my great army that I sent among you.”God wants to restore everything that’s been stolen from your life. He wants to restore your joy, your peace, your family, your health and your finances. Have faith and trust Him for everything and seek Him first and all the things that you need it will be added unto you. Lord Jesus, thank You for choosing to restore our lives. Thank You for the truth of Your Word that sets us free. Fill us with Your power today, so that We may stand strong and move forward on the path You have for us in Jesus’ name. Amen. Susan, if you ant to talk to our trained prayer counselors, feel free to dial our 24/7 prayer center at 737-0700. God bless you always!

  • Annaliza

    I am having difficulty to manage my marriage.iys difficult to accept that i become a husband in the family.i wanted to feel that i am a wife a woman whos husband is the one providing for the family.

    • Hi Annaliza, Jesus loves you and He understand your situation. He cares so much about every detail of your life. He cares about your thoughts, feelings and emotions. He cares about the things that hurt you. He is close to the brokenhearted, and He wants to bring you peace and comfort. We are praying for you and your husband. God’s word says in Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”Turn to Him and receive His love. Let Him bring healing to your heart and restoration to your soul. Lord, thank You for loving us and setting us free. Thank You for being our vindicator. We choose to release every hurt, pain and sorrow, knowing that You will make all things new in Your time in Jesus’ name. Amen. Feel free to call us anytime at 737-0700. God bless you.

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