Is Marriage Worth One More Try after an Extramarital Affair?

There once lived a happy couple, but then, an extramarital affair was entertained. Now, the couple lived happily ‘never’ after.

Extramarital affair, also known as EMA, is an emotional and sexual involvement with a person other than your spouse. Most of the time, these affairs are kept in secret and that is why the discovery of an EMA can be the lowest and darkest moment of a married life.

Because affairs shatter trust, many seriously consider ending their marriages – and even their very lives – after discovering an EMA.

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This is why last November 23, 2018, the CBN Asia Prayer Center held a 1-day counseling training for pastors and church leaders to help them deal with EMA. The training titled “Helping the Couple with Extra-Marital Affair,” was held at the Christ Covenant Keeping God Church in Illustre Avenue, Lemery, Batangas.

Pastor Salvador Bautista, CBN Asia Prayer Center-External’s manager and a registered guidance counselor, emphasized that an EMA is a symptom of problems in the relationship of the couple. Unresolved challenges like unmet needs for intimacy, unresolved conflicts, wrong reasons for marriage, sex addiction, neglect of relationship could lead to EMA.

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The participants learned the counselor’s general goals to work through the crisis by making sure the affair stops, addressing the offender’s issues, rebuilding the self-worth of the offended, and helping with reconciling them to the Lord.

As Genesis 2:24 states in marriage, “…a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” A couple united by God is indeed worth one more try. A counselor should join the couple in their journey through this challenging situation, should they decide to resolve their underlying issues.

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Do you know anyone who has been through an extramarital affair? CBN Asia Prayer Center offers counseling trainings to churches, Christian organizations, government, and non-government organizations.

Help us uphold godly marriages by equipping counselors, leaders, and churches in your area. You may contact CBN Asia Prayer Center’s Partnership Coordinator, Rodnie Ruelos at 0917 or 812-4747 (local 428) for details.

8 Comments

  • shiela manguilimotan

    hello po. good day matagal ko na po gustong tumawag pero nawawalan lang talaga ako ng pagkakataon. taga subaybay nyo po ako. gusto ko lng ko ibahagi karanasan ko ngayon. way back 2017 kumuha po kami ng housing ng asawa ko naka bayad ko kami ng ilang months pero mga 3 months before po sya umuwi dito sa pinas. (seaman nga pala cya) nag kagulo nag expect po cya na naka bayad ako in advance pero sa totoo d po ako naka bayad kasi may pinag gamitan ako sa pero yung iba sa pamilya ko tapos yung iba binayad ko sa utang ko po. dko po sinabi sa asawa ko, yun nalaman nya nagalit sya sa akin. humingi ako ng tawad sa kanya . ilang buwan ang naka lipas naka sakay cya ulit d na cya bumalik samin nalaman ko po na may babae na cya. i try to fix things pero its to late. ayaw na nya sakin. lahat ginawa ko naki usap ang sa kanya at sa babae nya. ang sakit ang dami ng mga ginawa sakin ng asawa ko na masakit na d ko na halos makaya. i got into depression kahit ngayon nag susuffer pa rin ako. ilang beses na nya akong ininsulto, menura at kung ano ano pa. dko na alam ang gagawin ko parang nawawalan na ako ng pag asa. i always pray to god to change my husband heart and mind . naaawa na ako sa anak namin. he is longing for his father. wala po kaming na tatanggap na financial support galing sa kanya para sa anak ko. alam ko kasalanan ko at pinag sisihan ko na po yon. nawawalan na ako ng pag asa na maayos pa ang pamilya ko. masakit para sakin na ganon ka bilis para sa kanya iwan ang pamilya nya at sumama sa iba.

    • Hi Shiela, maraming salamat sa pagbabahagi ng iyong karanasan at salamat din sa pagtitiwala mo sa amin. Makakaasa ka na kami ay sumusuporta sa iyo lalong-lalo na sa panalangin. Magpakatatag ka sa Panginoon dahil Siya ang kalakasan, pag-asa, gabay at tulong mo sa sitwasyon na iyong kinakaharap. Lagi mong tandaan na sa Panginoon walang imposible sa Kanya. Ipagtatanggol ka ng Panginoon, pumanatag ka lamang. Patuloy mo lang ipanalangin ang iyong asawa. Hayaan mo na ang Panginoon ang humipo sa kanyang puso at makilala niya ito. Kung hindi man nagagampanan ng mister mo ang kanyang tungkulin niya sayo at sa pamilya mo. Nariyan ang Panginoon para punan yong mga kakulangan sa buhay mo. Isaiah 54:5 says, “For your Maker is your husband— the LORD Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.” Kasama mo ang Panginoon, Shiela. Dalangin namin na lahat ng pain, hurt, bitterness sa puso mo ay maghilum/gumaling at mawala and We declare peace, joy, hope, faith, strength, restoration, love upon you and to your husband. In Jesus name. Amen! Maaari mo rin kaming tawagan, Shiela kahit anumang oras. Ang aming trained prayer counselor ay nakahanda para makausap ka. Tawag ka sa 737-0700 0r magmessage sa aming viber account sa 09498888001. God bless you more, Shiela. 🙂

  • Karen Choa

    Sobra sobra na ang pasakit na ginagawa sakin ng mister ko. Nambabae na, ibinaon pa kami sa utang at isinanla pa niya ang mga gamit ko. Di ko na po alam kung anong gagawin ko. Hirap na hirap na po ako sa sitwasyong ito. Please pray for us.

    • Mapagpalang araw sayo, Karen. Salamat sa pagbabahagi mo sa amin ng iyong concern. Mahal ka ng Diyos at naintindihan Niya ang mga nararamdaman at kabigatan mo ngayon. Pangako Niya sa atin sa Mateo 1:28 “Lumapit kayo sa akin, kayong lahat na nahihirapan at nabibigatang lubha sa inyong pasanin, at kayo’y bibigyan ko ng kapahingahan.”Lagi mo lang tandaan na sa Kanya may tunay na kapayapaan at kapahingahan. Ipaubaya natin sa Panginoong Hesus ang buhay ng iyong asawa na sa Kanyang kahabagan at kabutihan ay baguhin nito ang kanyang puso na maging isang mabuting asawa at ama. Walang imposible sa ating Panginoong Hesus, Siya ay maaasahan at tunay na makapangyarihan. Idinadalangin din namin na maranasan mo ang kapayapaan, kalakasan, probisyon at pagpapala ng Diyos. Sa pangalan ni Hesus. Amen! Tawagan mo kami anytime sa 737-0700. God bless you.

  • Amihan rodriguez

    My husband is cheating on me…

    • Hi Amihan, thank you for sharing with us your concern. Whatever situation that you are facing today, remember this God is your help and He loves you so much. The bible tells us that Jesus came to give us abundant life. God is the source of all life, and when you seek Him, you will find Him, and the result will be everlasting life. We declare restoration and salvation in your family. In Jesus name. Amen! Kagalakan naming ipanalangin ka at pakinggan ka sa iyong pinagdaraanan, tumawag lamang sa 73 70 700. Andito kami para sa yo. God bless you!

  • Leah Lynn Floresta

    My hisband left 5 years ago when I found out that he was sending messages, using not his phone, another woman whom I don’t know. After he left I had several relationships because I was longing for someone to love me. I never lived in with any of them. But I still long for someone to love me.

    • Jesus loves you, Leah. No matter how you may be feeling right now or whose approval you didn’t get on this earth, know that Almighty God loves you and approves of you today. Before you were born, God was thinking about you. He knew everything about you before you were in your mother’s womb. He created you on purpose, for a purpose. Allow Him to work in your life. Allow His love to empower and strengthens you. You are not alone, Jesus is with you and He has better plans for your life. Fix your eyes on Him and surrender everything to Him. He will fight for you! Feel free to contact our 24/7 prayer center at 737-0700 anytime. May the Lord bless you and keep you always!

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