Men and Women Difference

By Dr. Harold J. Sala

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.  Genesis 1:27

In their book Why Men Don’t Listen, Barbara and Allan Pease ask the question, “How long does it take for a man to change an empty roll of toilet paper?” and the answer is “Forever!”  Why?  Because men and women don’t think the same way, say this husband-and-wife team of researchers, who spent years interviewing men and women around the world, recording their observations, and—at least in some cases—certifying the obvious.

Of course, everybody knows that men and women have different plumbing, and are wired differently, but only in recent years has science come to grips with how deep are the differences between men and women.  It’s an ignorance which contributes to the growing unhappiness and unrest between the sexes, something that happened long before feminists started burning their bras and Gloria Steinhem suggested that women need men like a fish needs a bicycle.

Actually the first scientific research on the brain was done in 1882 at the University of London’s museum as Frank Galton began preliminary research on how the brain functions.  It was almost a hundred years later—in the 1990s—when scientists really made headway.  Often called “the last frontier of science,” brain research in the 90’s began to demonstrate that the brains of men and women are different during the very period of time that feminists were trying to wipe out the distinction between men and women.

The brains of men and women are not only different in size, and shaped slightly different, but they are wired differently—something which may account for what is often called “feminine intuition.”  Think of it like this.  Here are two computers, one on your left side, the other on your right.  Connecting the two is an interface cable.  The two computers, corresponding to the two hemispheres of your brain, move information back and forth.  But when it comes to the human brain the corpus callosum is like the interface cable, and—are you ready for this?—in women, estrogen, a female hormone, produces a greater thickness in the millions of nerve fibers connecting the two hemispheres.

The reality is that women, using a computer term, can do multitasking—do several things at once, while men are more focused and tend to do one thing at a time.  A woman can walk into a room with 20 people and in two minutes tell you what every women in that room is wearing, but the same woman can drive a car for two hours and fail to see the red warning light on the instrument panel of the car.

Her husband, however, turns down the radio when he’s looking for a road or a street—it’s too distracting to focus on where he’s going and listen to the radio at the same time.  His wife, however, can watch TV, do dishes, listen to the kids, and carry on a phone conversation all at the same time.

Here is the bottom line: Your brain determines how you think, and how you think determines how you behave; and your brain makes you the way you are because that’s the way God made you.

Our English word sex comes from a Latin word secare which means “to divide.”  Sexual differences are all part of God’s plan for men and women, not quirks of evolution, or cultural differences.

Want to understand your husband or wife?  Then learn more about how men and women are different and how each can meet the needs of the other.  It can make the difference in your marriage.  Understanding how our brains really work may also help you understand why men don’t listen, can’t remember, and get mad when you complain.  Really.

Resource reading: Genesis 1:24-27.

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