So, no one told you that ‘pandemic life’ was gonna be this way.
If only all friendships could play out like the ones in sitcoms! You all live next door to each other, you can spend plenty of time together while drinking coffee and having long, intimate conversations.
Sadly, we don’t live in a sitcom. In real life, keeping friendships can require a lot of work – even more so during the pandemic.
No worries! Here are some tips that can help you deepen your relationships and keep healthy friendships during the pandemic:
The one where you reach out
So, your friends are not reaching out to you, and you feel that they have abandoned you?
Now is not the time to test your friends! Everyone’s going through something, and it is best to extend grace during these trying times. Also, it wouldn’t hurt if you’re the first one to reach out and ask how your friends are holding up.
Shoot them a message, initiate a video call, and work hard to try to see them – while maintaining safety measures. Be present, says The Mental Health Foundation. You would be amazed how your simple gesture can make a huge impact on your friendship.
The one where you ask questions and actively listen
Now that you’ve gotten in touch with your friends, what do you talk about? Break the ice! Ask questions!
Ask them how they are doing in their job or online classes, how they’re coping with the new normal, then let them fill you in. Asking friends how they feel and actively listening to their response are special moves.
Likewise, a big key to friendship is self-disclosure, says Psychology professor Tracy Gleason, so show that you can also be open and vulnerable around your friends.
The one where you accept changes in your friendships
One thing you might notice as you talk with your friends is that many things changed in their life, especially during the pandemic.
Pandemic or not, change is natural. Life happens. People outgrow some things they used to value while trying to cope with the new normal. They can make decisions even if they don’t align with your beliefs anymore. They can even make new friends.
Try not to focus on the differences you now have with each other. Instead, focus on your shared experiences. Choose to see these changes through the lens of acceptance and love.
The one where you celebrate milestones
Do you rarely get a chance to see your friend?
Then special events like birthdays, weddings, or graduations can be perfect opportunities to reconnect, catch up, and celebrate! Marking these significant life changes is important, PsychCentral affirms.
Most people get life updates about their friends from social media, but the details and the big and small talks that make up your friendships can only be shared through one-on-one interactions. It’s also a chance to try something new together like a zoom celebration or stream movies virtually.
The one where you pray for your friends
The pandemic is a universal experience, but it is also an individual experience. It has dramatically affected everyone – so everyone could use some encouragement – including your friends.
Pray for and with your friend. Ask them if they have prayer requests, and actually pray for them then and there. Allow God to comfort, protect, and direct your friends’ paths.
Lastly, ask God to strengthen your friendship and keep it healthy, as both of you dwell in His constant love.
“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other… Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” (Romans 12:10-12 NLT)
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