Mental illness could happen to anyone and it could be difficult to recognize.
Unlike a physical wound that is easy to spot, mental illness is an internal war hidden behind a smile, a hello, and the telltale phrase, “I’m okay.”
According to Mayo Clinic, some of the warning signs you should watch out for are “excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt, significant tiredness, low energy, and inability to cope with daily problems or stress.”
If you recognize these symptoms in a friend, colleague, or family member, check out these tips from Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz, Sonjia Kakilala and psychotherapist Alain Dizon to know how you can better support them in this journey.
1. Make the person feel that nothing has changed
You might feel awkward when approaching them, but try to relax. Make them feel that you’re the same person they have known and you still see them the same way. Create a safe place for them to unload and share their struggles without judging nor condemning them.
2. Ask them how you could help
It’s okay to be honest and to admit that you don’t know what to do. Ask them how you could help. Always take the cue from the person.
Tell them your limitations and boundaries when helping, but assure them that you’ll journey with them to recovery.
3. Learn how to listen
Avoid acting like an expert by trying to fix your loved ones’ problems. What they need are your heartfelt presence and listening ear to make them feel that you genuinely care.
Also, don’t force them to speak if they are not yet ready to open up. Just make yourself available whenever they are comfortable to finally talk.
Did these tips help you? Feel free to comment on the online discussion and make sure to catch the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk! Watch it next Saturday, October 23, 2021, 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel!
Also, we would love to pray for you and your loved ones who are suffering from mental health problems.
Call 8-737-0-7-00 if you’re in Metro Manila. If you’re outside Metro Manila or the Philippines, contact us through CBN Asia Prayer Center.
Taking care of your overall well-being is integral to being a healthy and productive person.
It enables you to be more productive, it boosts your immune system, enhances your self-esteem, and improves your compassion towards others, says Katherine Hurst of The Law of Attraction in her article What Is Self-Care And Why Is Self-Care Important?.
But then, a lot of people still think that self-care is being selfish and inconsiderate.
In this webisode of Beyond Small Talk, hosts Peter Kairuz, Sonjia Calit, and Zenia Panahon discuss the importance of self-care. They also share tips that you can apply to have a healthier body, soul, and spirit.
1. Learn to listen to your body
Are the pressures of life crushing you down? Swamped by your daily tasks and cannot function well?
Be sensitive to detect the messages that your body sends to you.
“Self-care is not being selfish, it is being healthy,” Zenia Panahon emphasized.
Can you hear your body groan and complain? It’s okay to take a step back and retreat.
2. Set aside some time for yourself
Stress is everywhere. It is inevitable.
You need to find some time to slow down, clear your thoughts, and get replenished. You may try meditating, take a 10-15 minute walk every day, or clean and declutter your desk.
According to Zenia Panahon, “Self-care routines vary for different people. It still depends on what works for you and what recharges you.”
3. Make a habit of spending time with God.
Dedicate a time for just you and God.
Say a word of prayer, give thanks to Him, and read what He wants to say to you through His Word.
You can come to God in all your brokenness. Allow Him to make you whole and to comfort you while in the midst of your raging sea of stress and negative emotions.
Peter Kairuz says it beautifully, “When God comforts you, it’s all-encompassing. It’s not just your spirit, but your body benefits from that moment with God.”
If you’re suffering from mental illness, Beyond Small Talk is here for you and ready to listen.
Do not hesitate to join our online discussion and share your struggles with us.
These are real battles people with mental illness deal with every day because of stigma from society.
In fact, the Department of Health, as cited by Philippine Star in their article DOH: It’s time to talk about, address depression made an alarming statement, “We need to start talking about depression to end the stigma surrounding mental health because, when left unattended, it can lead to suicide.”
You can help your struggling friend, workmate, or family member with mental health problems. You just have to be willing to learn, unlearn, and relearn hard truths about it.
Take time to check out these 10 common myths on mental illness debunked by Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz, Sonjia Calit, and Zenia Panahon.
Myth #1: Mental health problems can only be experienced at a certain age.
Truth: Mental health problems could manifest at any age. According to Mayo Clinic in their article Mental illness in children: Know the signs, like adults, children can also develop the same mental illness such as anxiety disorders, Schizophrenia, and Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Myth #2: People with mental health problems are violent and unpredictable.
Truth: Not all who people who have mental health problems act violently. It still varies on the condition and MentalHealth.gov says in their article Mental Health Myths and Facts, “only 3%–5% of violent acts can be attributed to individuals living with a serious mental illness.”
Myth #3: People with mental health problems cannot deal with jobs and/or school.
Truth: There are people with mental health issues who are highly functional and productive members of society. This is why you should be sensitive to signs of mental illness in your loved ones.
Myth #4: Personality flaws are often cause of mental health issues. You could snap out of it over time.
Truth: Mental health issues can be sourced from different factors such as genetics, environment, socio-economic standing, and temperament, says Zenia Panahon.
Also, you can’t snap out of it. You need professional help and ongoing family support which are both vital toward healing from mental health issues.
Myth #5: Once you experience mental health problems, you will never get out of it.
Truth: Mental illness is treatable. If you seek help and gain support, you can recuperate from it.
Myth #6: Taking medications is the only answer.
Truth: Some recover from mental health issues solely with the help of friends, family, and mental health professionals, but there are others who also need medication.
Myth #7: It is impossible to prevent mental illness.
Truth: You cannot really control life’s trials and challenges, so there are times that it may push you to your limit.
But, Mayo Clinic explained in Mental Illness that “If you have a mental illness, taking steps to control stress, to increase your resilience and to boost low self-esteem may help keep your symptoms under control.”
Myth #8: Mental illness is a form of brain damage.
Myth #9: I can’t do anything for people who have mental health issues.
Truth: You can do something about it by being a good support system to them. Show your support by learning how to deal with your loved ones who have mental health issues and accompanying them when seeking professional help, Zenia Panahon explained.
Myth #10: If I seek help, others would think I’m crazy.
Truth: When you seek help, you are investing in taking care of yourself, says Zenia Panahon.
Now that election day is getting closer, we see more and more campaign ads on public spaces and media outlets.
Candidates all over the country are putting their best foot forward to prove to Filipinos that they deserve a seat in the national and local government.
While their attributed charisma and campaign jingles make them look convincing, these political publicity stunts should not be the only guide to making your decision on whom to vote.
Your vote matters. So, here are 3 things you must do before casting that crucial vote next election as advised by Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz, Jericho Arceo, and Paul Herrera.
1. Research the candidate’s background.
There’s more to campaign materials than meets the eye. Of course, candidates will not show you their weaknesses and wrongdoings. It’s your responsibility to do your research.
Look at their political records, leadership skills, and where they stand on important issues. Among other things, these will help you weigh whether he/she is qualified for the position they are running for.
2. Assess candidate’s character.
You wouldn’t want to vote for a leader who is just eloquent in speech. Instead, look for a leader who has integrity, commitment, faithfulness – one who stays true and fulfills his/her promises, and someone who would be always available in times of need.
A leader who serves and sacrifices for the good of his/her people just like how it was demonstrated by Jesus, the greatest leader of all time, is worth our vote.
3. Pray before you vote.
Above all else, seek for God’s wisdom and discernment. Make a decision to fervently pray for the right candidates for the position because your vote determines the direction of the future of our country.
In 2 Chronicles 7:14 ESV, it says, “If my people who are called by my name humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”
Follow this prayer with us:
“Lord, we come humbly before Your throne today. We acknowledge Your sovereignty and power over our beloved nation, the Philippines. We know that when we pray, You hear us. So with confidence, we ask for a safe and peaceful election process. We ask for divine encounters for our government and future leaders, and wisdom to every Filipino voter. May You hold everything in the palm of Your hands. We ask all these in the Mighty Name of Jesus, Amen!”
The brave first responders. Modern-day heroes. Frontliners.
Healthcare and essential workers are praised and given these names, and it’s only right to honor them. They put their lives on the line to treat overwhelming numbers of COVID-19 patients. They serve for long hours while most of them live in isolation from their loved ones. They care for people’s needs and keep the country going.
If you are a frontliner, thank you for doing what you do!
Despite these various roles, we acknowledge that you might also be struggling with fear, anxiety, and uncertainty. If you feel stressed and overwhelmed during this challenging season, take this time to breathe.
Everyone is battling the COVID-19 pandemic in their own different ways. But we can’t imagine how difficult it is for frontliners like you.
At the end of the day, you can only fulfill your heroic duties if you are your own hero. So, carve out time for self-care. Prioritize sleep, commit to regular exercise, and eat healthy. Relax a little! Listen to music, watch a film or a cat video. Do activities that soothe your mind.
Also, give yourself credit, the Mental Health First Aid suggests. Appreciate the important work that you’re doing and give gratitude to yourself.
Tip #2: Talk to other people
Whether it’s a family member, a friend, or a mental health professional, sharing your thoughts and concerns to other people you trust is good for your mental health.
By talking to others, you can make them feel that they’re not alone! You can encourage each other and build each other up! (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NLT)
Also, talk to the people you work with. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, communicating with your coworkers and supervisors helps you cope with difficult situations and become resilient. If you have concerns about yourself and your job, talk openly so they can help you.
Think about what works best for you and don’t hesitate to ask how you can access mental health resources in your workplace.
Tip #3: Lean on God
Other people – including the ones closest to you – may not understand everything that’s going on in your life, but God knows.
If you feel that the stress and pressure are too much to handle, pause and pray. You can always come to God because He is your ever-present help (Psalm 46:1). That means you can talk to Him, cry to Him, and ask for His strength and comfort.
Keep going. Keep praying. God is with you every step of the way!
“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” (Deuteronomy 31:8 NLT)
Do you feel stressed or overwhelmed?
Do you need someone to talk to?
We would love to support and comfort you through prayers. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 and our trained prayer counselors will pray for you.
The latest figures from the Philippine Statistics Authority showed that suicide rate increased by 57% in 2020 compared to the previous year. Suicide took the lives of 4,420 Filipinos — the highest in 14 years!
Despite these alarming numbers, a lot of misconceptions and stigma still surround the topic of suicide. Common labels are applied to suicide victims, survivors, bereaved families, and to people who struggle with suicidal thoughts.
Stigma, or the fear of being stigmatized, prevents most people with suicidal thoughts from seeking life-saving help and treatment. Survivors bottle up their shame because they worry about how they would be seen by their loved ones and society. People who have lost someone to suicide experience more rejection, shame, and blame than other bereaved people.
Misconceptions on suicide also result in uncertainty in others about how to approach and help someone through their pain. So survivors of suicide, people suffering with suicidal thoughts, and even those who have lost loved ones are often left isolated and unsupported.
This is why it is important to shed light on any stigma as they can result in terrible consequences. Let’s take a look at some common myths surrounding suicide and uncover the truths behind them:
Myth #1: Suicidal people are just looking for attention.
Fact: People who have suicidal thoughts need help.
Attention and help are drastically different from each other. Having suicidal thoughts indicates that a person is facing mental or physical health challenges, according to Medical News Today. It’s not a need for clout or attention – it is a clear sign that that person needs help.
Simple questions like “Are you having suicidal thoughts?” or “What are the reasons why you don’t want to live anymore?” can spark life-saving conversations.
Myth #3: Only people with mental health conditions develop suicidal thoughts.
Fact: Anybody can develop suicidal thoughts.
Suicidal thoughts and actions can affect people of all ages, genders, life status, or health conditions. It is pervasive. It touches everybody, depending on their life situation.
As stated by the National Alliance on Mental Illness, many individuals with mental illness are not affected by suicidal thoughts. Likewise, not all people who attempt or die by suicide have mental illness.
Myth #4: People who attempt suicide are selfish.
Fact: People who attempt suicide think about their loved ones.
Often, people attempt suicide because they mistakenly think that they’re a burden to others. They worry about hurting their family and friends, so they try to shoulder their pain as best as they can.
But as they’re clouded by feelings of hopelessness, they tend to conclude that their loved ones are better off without them.
Myth # 5: People who have suicidal thoughts are lacking in faith.
Fact: Suicidal thoughts can affect anyone, even people of faith!
Due to the notion that suicide is an unforgivable sin and that feeling hopeless somehow translates to a lack of faith, believers who struggle with suicidal thoughts feel shame and hesitate to seek help.
While it’s true that hope, healing, and comfort come from God (Exodus 15:26), mental health struggles are real, too. Even the people God had worked with in the Bible were afflicted with suicidal thoughts.
Elijah (1 Kings 19:4) and Jonah (Jonah 4:8) wished to die, while King Saul (1 Samuel 31:2-5) and Samson (Judges 16:23-31) perished at their own hands. These stories are evidence that suicidal thoughts can affect anyone.
Suicidal thoughts do not determine a person’s faith and eternal destiny. However, it affects those who are left behind. Bereaved families are left seeking for answers, comfort, and hope.
Thankfully, the Word of God offers a hope-giving promise to everyone affected by suicide: Nothing can separate a believer from the love of Jesus Christ.
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39 ESV)
If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, we encourage you to seek professional help and support from your family and friends. Call emergency hotlines such as Hopeline Philippines’ 24/7 hotlines: 0917-558-4673 (Globe), 0918-873-4673 (Smart), 02-88044673 (PLDT), 2919 (toll-free for Globe and TM).
We are also here to join you in prayers. Together, let’s lift your concerns to God. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700.
Do you always hear phrases like “Come on, just do it!” or “Don’t you want to fit in?”
You want to fit in, to be part of the group. That’s cool. After all, humans are designed to belong and connect with each other. But sometimes, people end up doing something they know they shouldn’t do just to fit in.
You’re not alone. Peer pressure is something that can happen to anyone. It happens to kids, even adults, especially to young adults like you.
While it is true that people are called to love their neighbors and know how to relate with them, does this mean that we should do anything just to get along with everybody?
Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you deal with negative peer pressure:
Question 1: “What will be the outcome?”
Right now, you are open to so many options, so many things, and your decisions could lead you anywhere.
If your friends are pressuring you into doing something you won’t normally do, ask yourself: “What is going to happen if I do this? Am I ready to accept the consequences?” Count the cost, consider the risks of giving in to the pressure. They can have serious consequences not just to you, but to other people as well.
Exodus 23:2 reminds people to not follow the crowd in doing wrong.
If someone is making you do something you’re uncomfortable with, it’s okay to say no.
It’s true that taking a stand for what is right might make people unhappy with you, but that’s ok. What’s important is you do what God wants you to do.
Question 2: “Am I surrounded with the right people?”
The people around you help form your character. As the old saying goes, “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.”
So, if your peers are pressuring you into doing something you don’t want to do, or something that could hurt you, perhaps it’s time to ask yourself if you are with the right people.
Ask, “Am I with the right people that will help me get to where I want to be in this life, or this relationship would only lead me to destruction?”
Likewise, the Bible was clear that even the most well-intentioned individuals can be led astray by those with bad character.
“Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” (1 Corinthians 15:33 NASB)
That’s why it’s important that you surround yourself with positive influences – people who genuinely want the best for you and will help shape your behaviors according to what is good and pleasing to God.
Question 3: “Who am I trying to please?”
Contrary to popular belief, vulnerable people are not the only ones who can be pressured to do what the world wants over what God wants. Even those who have a healthy relationship with their families could fall to bad influences.
Why? People often fall into negative peer pressure because they think they could find happiness in social acceptance. But that kind of happiness is short-lived.
Gaining the approval of a corrupted world means giving up the true happiness that comes from God’s approval.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10 NIV)
It’s never been easy living in a world full of pressure.
But don’t worry!
God will be with you. He is the best friend and companion because He will never pressure you in doing anything that is bad for you.
May you have the courage to stand your ground. Pray, and trust that God will always empower you to resist any temptation, any peer pressure.
“Put into practice what you learned and received from me, both from my words and from my actions. And the God who gives us peace will be with you.” (Philippians 4:9 GNT)
If you are, then perhaps you can relate to Lorelie Zablan’s story.
Lorelie could not count how many times she had prayed and hoped for a baby. When she and her husband married, they wanted to get pregnant right away.
But, after six long years of trying, the couple still remained childless. They eventually found out that Lorelie has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) which prevented her from conceiving.
“The egg cell doesn’t multiply; it is not enough for me to conceive. I was also thinking, what if my husband looks for another woman because I cannot give him a child? I was so scared,” Lorelie shared.
All her horrors came to life when her spouse confessed that he was having an affair.
Scared, frustrated, and devastated, Lorelie spiraled into depression. She couldn’t help feeling that she failed as a woman and as a wife.
She recalled, “It came to a point where I asked my husband, ‘Am I ugly? How could you do that to me?’ He said the problem was not me. But when you’re in that situation, how else would you think? I didn’t know what to do.”
Lorelie got an answer while watching The 700 Club Asia.
Inspired by the encouraging prayers of the hosts, she got in touch with the CBN Asia Prayer Center. She poured out all her emotions, hoping that one day, her miracle would come.
“I texted my prayer requests to the Prayer Center. I was praying for a baby and asking God to restore my marriage,” Lorelie said.
The prayers from the Prayer Center inspired Lorelie so much that she wanted to share the comfort she received. Partnering her prayers with obedience, she decided to donate 500 pesos every month to the ministry. She also learned to forgive her husband.
“God helped us fix our marriage,” Lorelie said. “My husband asked for forgiveness and showed me that he regretted all his actions.”
Two months after she watched The 700 Club Asia, Lorelie became pregnant!
She gave birth to a healthy baby boy and named him Elijah Dave – a symbol of God’s hope and strength in their lives.
“God surprised me! My husband and I burst out crying. It was an unexplainable feeling. Even though we had problems in our marriage, God still blessed us with a child.”
Lorelie once longed for a baby. Now, her heart is overflowing with the testimony of God’s miracles and blessings!
She continued, “When I saw my baby for the first time, I could not contain my happiness. I felt whole. Nothing is impossible with God!”
Like Lorelie, are you childless and praying for a baby?
Waiting is not easy, especially when it is beyond your control. Thankfully, those who wait and trust in God will have the strength to press on.
Don’t give up on your miracle. Keep on praying, believing, and standing firmly on His promises!
“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:14 NIV)
Kung tatanungin ka namin ngayon, Breaker, do you know who you are? Do you know why you exist here on earth? Tough question, ‘no? It feels like you’re in an endless search of finding your true self. Sabi nila dapat ganito ka, dapat ganyan ka. Ganito dapat gawin mo, ganyan ka dapat tulad ng iba. Pero totoo ba? Naka-dictate lang ba ang #identity and #purpose mo sa sinasabi ng iba? Sunod ka na lang ba sa agos? Sa trend? Sa goals and dreams nila? Haaayss. Mapapagod ka nga niyan kakahanap ng true identity and purpose mo kasi you’re chasing after the wrong things. Awtsuuu! Hinga ka lang muna, okay? Breathe in. Breathe out. You’re missing something, Breaker. Masyado ka naka-focus sa outward, nakalimutan mo na to look inward and upward so you can look forward. Curious what we’re talking about? May steps kasi na shinare si Anton Reyes, isang Certified Life Coach, on how to find your true self. BreakThrough step #1 look inward: How do I see myself? BreakThrough step #2 look outward: How do others see me? BreakThrough step #3 look upward: How does God see me? Oh ayan ah. Binigyan ka na namin ng pasilip. Watch the full #BreakThroughtheLens video dahil for sure madami kang “AHA!” moments dito. Excited kami malaman kung ano ang natutunan mo from Coach Anton so please comment it below! You can BreakThrough feeling lost and stuck!
An emotional wound, however, could linger for a very long time.
A broken relationship, a traumatic experience, or a limiting belief in yourself could all add weight to your emotional baggage. They are absolutely hard to deal with and they can prevent you from living a joy-filled life.
While healing from your emotional wounds is a challenging journey, remember that you have the power to change your story! Here are 5 tips to help you let go of your past and thrive your way through emotional healing:
1. Acknowledge your emotional wound
Do your emotional wounds hijack your creativity, productivity, and even the way you think? Perhaps it’s time to acknowledge and accept your pain.
Being honest to yourself and accepting that you have these painful wounds are powerful keys to your healing.
It doesn’t have to be a Level 10 kind of a pain to be called difficult – it could be the little things: a childhood memory, stress at work, hurtful words, or just day-by-day problems that have accumulated and affect your mental health.
Today, have the courage to admit out loud that something has affected you. Have more “courageous conversations” with yourself and with other people as well.
2. Find rest and relief
How do you find rest? How often do you rest?
If you had a hard time answering those questions, then it is time to take a break from your pain and find relief, Psychology Today suggests.
Some people find relief in arts or sports, others feel rested when they travel or engage with nature. There are also people who find rest and relief from their wounds when they start to forgive.
3. Seek help
Someone is in deep anguish since he lost his job amid a pandemic. He’s been holding on to that emotional wound for months, to the point that he cannot eat nor sleep. But when people ask him how he is doing, his answer would always be: “I am fine.”
His situation sounds familiar, right?
Most people have been like Someone in one way or another – saying that they are fine even when they’re not.
You need some time alone to heal from your emotional wounds, but it is also important to allow other people to help you. Do not hesitate to reach out to your trusted friend or family member, or even seek support from mental health professionals.
4. Understand and learn from your experience
Now that the event is over, perhaps, you can look at the situation from a more logical perspective?
After going through a traumatic event, a stressful situation, or any event that caused your emotional wound, it is likely that you only thought of that experience in one way.
Try to understand your situation more clearly and consider the reality above any assumptions that you might have been making this whole time. What was true? What was not? How did it play out in the end? What did you learn from the experience? Discover new perspectives that you can get from that experience.
5. Allow God to heal you
You cannot change your past; it will remain the same. What you can change is how you look back on your past. It might be difficult to let go and heal deep emotional wounds but with Jesus, you will get there.
Your Heavenly Father can lift you up (Psalms 146:8), strengthen you (Isaiah 41:10), and heal your emotional wounds (2 Kings 20:5). Bring your burden to God and allow Him to help you transform your life for the better.
As Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”
Are you struggling to heal from your emotional wounds?
Let JC Ronato’s newest single, Maghihilom, comfort you! Produced by CBN Asia’s music arm Reverb Worship PH, this song will inspire you that true restoration and healing come from God. Maghihilom will hit the airwaves this July. Follow Reverb Worship PH on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube for more updates.