How to Raise Good Fathers? Here are 3 Tips

how to raise good fathers

Are you raising up a son? Remember that they might one day lead their own family.

Here are 3 tips to help your boys grow up as good fathers in the future.

  1. Be a role model

Dr. James Dobson said in his book, Bringing up Boys, “Children may not remember what you say, but they are usually impacted for life by what you do.”

Set an example. If you want your kids to learn values such as honesty, respect, kindness, and discipline, then let them see it in your lifestyle.

  1. A stable marriage counts

If the relationship between husband and wife is healthy and harmonious, it “…allows children to feel happy and to trust that parent to meet their emotional needs,” says psychologytoday.com.

As a child develops through adulthood, he will need a strong support system to help him process the drastic changes that are happening in him and around him.

For single mothers, Dr. Dobson suggests that mothers shall take her authority very well.  “An authoritative but loving mother brings security to a child for whom everything seem insecure. Get in there and lead! Punish when punishment is needed. Hug them when they need reassurance. And make them think you know what you’re doing and where you’re going even when you may not have a clue.”

  1. Boys need men

As a boy grows older, he will gradually pull away from his mother’s femininity to develop his masculine identity through his father.

Dr. Dobson also said that it is common for boys to, “crave the attention and involvement of their dad and to try to emulate his behavior and mannerisms.”

While this is not an issue for single fathers, it could greatly be for single mothers. If you are a single mother, Dr. Dobson suggests that allowing your son to spend time with a mature male relative, friend, or teacher is good. This father-figure will influence them and help them as they grow in their own male identity.

Proverbs 22:6 NLT says, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”

God loves your boys more than you do. The best tip is to still get wisdom from God through His Word. Direct them according to God’s ways that they may grow up as responsible fathers who in return will raise up a godly generation.

Are you a parent who needs encouragement and prayer? Call us at 737-0700, if you are in Metro Manila. If you are outside Metro Manila or the Philippines, you can contact us through the CBN Asia Prayer Center.

 

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