For All the Single Ladies (Part 1)

Are you searching for your future spouse? I once was and I was taken aback when I learned that we do not have to preoccupy ourselves with seeking them out. Adam was asleep when Eve was brought to him! We are commanded to seek the Matchmaker Himself while He may be found. He knows best and will guide us step by step.

As I put the Maker first, I began to understand myself, what He made in me. I began to see my real needs and this affected my criteria for a suitable partner. I used to be limited to catching someone tall, not necessarily dark, handsome, sweet, and drives a car. Then slowly but surely, it began to matter that he got along with my parents, with his parents, that he shared my love for Jesus, that he would be a good father, and so forth and so on. Through prayer and reading Scripture, I was introduced to God’s design for men and this served as an indispensible guide in the selection process.

Recently, I was blessed to find out that my own teenage daughter looks to Scripture as well to shape her parameters in choosing a future mate. I thought her insights would bless other single ladies. As her mom, this also helps make my prayers for her future spouse more specific. I asked permission to share and lift portions of her latest blog entry titled, “Guidelines for A King.”

 

Image from Stephanie Firme and Talitha Buizon

What I realized recently is that everyone has soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are more like personal preferences, the things I would prefer my GB having. But the hard limits are the ones that he has to have, the things that God requires from any man looking to be his dream girl’s God’s Best.

Going back to my really cool realization… the memory of my GB list came along because of my recent discovery in the book of Deuteronomy. (Did that just rhyme? LOL) Just like my GB list, I came upon a list of guidelines that the Lord handed to Moses regarding the future kings of Israel. And while I was reading God’s guidelines, it felt like the words were popping out of my Bible and into my train of thought, while God was directly translating it into what our (all women) hard limits should be.

So, this should be interesting. Although the heading for this portion in Deuteronomy chapter 17 was titled “Guidelines for a King,” a king as defined is a ruler of state—authority—just as all husbands will be the future heads of their homes. Seems like an okay comparison, yes? Well, without further ado…

Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you God’s set hard limits for selecting/being a GB. Selection for women, and the being, for men.

Scripture Verse “God’s Best” Translation
14 You are about to enter the land the Lord your God is giving you. When you take it over and settle there, you may think, ‘We should select a king to rule over us like the other nations around us.’ 14 When you get older, you may begin to think that it is already time to find your God’s Best.
15 If this happens, be sure to select as king the man the Lord your God chooses. You must appoint a fellow Israelite; he may not be a foreigner. 15 Should this happen, be sure that you select as God’s Best the man the Lord your God chooses. You must choose a fellow believer.
16 The king must not build up a large stable of horses for himself or send his people to Egypt to buy horses, for the Lord has told you, ‘You must never return to Egypt.’ 16 He must not surround himself by people who will influence him to give in to the desires of the flesh.
17 The king must not take many wives for himself, because they will turn his heart away from the Lord. And he must not accumulate large amounts of wealth in silver and gold for himself. 17 He must not have had unresolved relationships in the past or any relationship that displeases the Lord at the present, because this will turn his heart away from the Lord. Money should never be an issue.
18 When he sits on the throne as king, he must copy for himself this body of instruction on a scroll in the presence of the Levitical priests. 18 As he takes the position of the head of your household, he must carry God’s Word with him.
19 He must always keep that copy with him and read it daily as long as he lives. That way he will learn to fear the Lord his God by obeying all the terms of these instructions and decrees. 19 And he has to read it every single day for as long as he lives. That way, he will fear the Lord his God, and will obey all He has commanded.
20 This regular reading will prevent him from becoming proud and acting as if he is above his fellow citizens. It will also prevent him from turning away from these commands in the smallest way. And it will ensure that he and his descendants will reign for many generations in Israel. 20 It will keep him from becoming proud and acting like he is better than everyone else. It will also keep him from disobeying the Lord even with the smallest commands. And this will ensure that your children and your children’s children will be raised well, and will excel in everything that they do.

 

Simple.

I honestly found the first few parts a bit easier to find, but the latter part about having someone who read the Bible every single day is something that I know is going to be a little more difficult, because there aren’t much who do. I struggle to read the Bible almost every day! (Especially when I was reading Numbers HUHUHU) But I have high hopes and will start to pray for more of us to continue reading the Bible. Include me in your prayers, too! Maybe for some of you, that’s all you’re lacking in God’s list of hard limits!

Just something interesting that God taught me today… Have a great week ahead! :)

 

Felichi Pangilinan-Buizon, co-host of The 700 Club Asia, is a homeschooling mom, gospel songwriter, and seminar speaker on parenting and early childcare. She is involved in the ministry of teaching at her local church, Christ’s Commission Fellowship. She welcomes your messages and comments at felichi.buizon@cbnasia.org. Follow her on Twitter: @FelichiOfficial

60 Comments

  • Jenn
    on Aug 17, 2012
    at 3:43 pm

    Love this, Ms. Felichi! I ‘m sharing this with my friends. You are such a blessing! Mwah!!!

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  • chiya
    on Aug 17, 2012
    at 4:37 pm

    hi,gudmorning.very well said. hope you will also include me in ur prayer. thankz

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  • Gege
    on Aug 17, 2012
    at 5:16 pm

    Thanks for the enlightenment! I hope many women would read it. Indeed, only God can lead us to the right one. ^_^

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  • melanie
    on Aug 17, 2012
    at 7:46 pm

    Nakaka inspire naman po. Thank you for sharing ♥

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  • jana
    on Aug 17, 2012
    at 9:24 pm

    Thanks for sharing:)

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  • Joseph Pangilinan
    on Aug 18, 2012
    at 9:00 am

    <3 you!!!! and HHHAAAPPPPPPYYY BBBIIIRRTTTHHHDDDAAAYYY TTTAAAHHHNNNEEEE!! ;-) K.J.

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  • Jerlyn Cuyos
    on Aug 18, 2012
    at 10:10 am

    Thanks for you blog, all lady’s will surely be happy to read it. your blog give desperate lady a hope and faith to our almighty God and believe that God has Plans for all the Single Lady.

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  • Jocelyn Amacio McGahaournal
    on Aug 18, 2012
    at 10:36 am

    this is another inspiring and encouraging article Felich!
    i am sharing this to my single ladies friends. so blessed to have you as my friend…a woman who has inspired me so much since a became a follower of Jesus. you are such a BIG blessing to me. happy birthday to your “FIRST”… i love you SIS!

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  • wengski
    on Aug 18, 2012
    at 3:05 pm

    Very inspiring..thanks for sharing!! :)

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  • Mary Ann
    on Aug 18, 2012
    at 4:50 pm

    Thanks po sa sharing.. Its really touch my heart.. I hope Mr Right come to my life soon…

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  • Emelda bedano
    on Aug 19, 2012
    at 8:36 pm

    thanks po sa magandang message,for sharing us..Please include me in your prayers,God bless!!!

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  • joan
    on Aug 20, 2012
    at 3:01 pm

    wow! i am so blessed. thank u so much for sharing this..i will also share this with my friends.God bless you miss felichi and the rest of 700club.

    Reply
  • teky
    on Aug 20, 2012
    at 5:42 pm

    thanks for sharing a very inspiring message and story=)

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  • AnnaNymous
    on Aug 20, 2012
    at 9:10 pm

    Just the perfect time to read this article when I am contemplating…
    I am now convinced that my faith is not shaken after all :)

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  • Jem
    on Aug 21, 2012
    at 2:29 pm

    WOW!! This is such a great read. :) thanks for sharing this. I’m at the point in my life na nagiisip isip na rin about my God’s best so this article is really helpful and inspiring. Thanks you!!

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  • rasmermar
    on Aug 21, 2012
    at 4:29 pm

    Maraming Salamat po for sharing this with us, karagdagang maituturo sa aking mga munting dalagita (ages 14 and 11) as they are on their journey to their youthful life. GOD bless 700 club Asia to your ministry, it was really a blessing to us.

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  • grace
    on Aug 28, 2012
    at 9:25 pm

    thank you for letting my hopes up again on waiting for the right one.
    i’ll share this for sure with my other single friends. hoping i can watch your episodes regarding on singleness..thanks. Godbls

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  • tet
    on Aug 30, 2012
    at 2:04 pm

    OMG! sapul na sapol! thank you po ms. felichi for inspiring single ladies like me. now i know that i made a right decision na ipaubaya na lng kay God ang tungkol sa lovelife ko, at wag magpa-pressure sa mga taong nakapaligid sa akin. and i’m very sure in God’s perfect time He will give me my “GB”. thanks again! Stay blessed! :-)

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  • lea
    on Aug 31, 2012
    at 2:17 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this blog ms. Felichi nabuksan lalo ang aking pusot isipan at ang hope ko to wait for my God’s Best..:)

    Reply
  • jhen
    on Sep 06, 2012
    at 6:32 pm

    This one is so wonderful..i shared it to my fb friends even to my single church mates..God bless CBN Asia ^^

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  • Macor Tiano
    on Sep 10, 2012
    at 10:29 pm

    I was inspired by this article. Being in my mid 30′s and still single is difficult to handle. People will most of the time misjudged you and blaming you why until now you’re still single. And I’m always a victim of their offending remarks. But I believe God has other plans and whatever it maybe, surely it will give me happiness.

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  • lhen
    on Sep 13, 2012
    at 2:38 am

    hello po..maraming salamat po sa Panginoon sa article na to…im so blessed..timely po ang pagkabasa q..lalo na d2 sa taiwan dami temptation…God bless

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  • Jennie de Guzman
    on Sep 16, 2012
    at 7:23 pm

    All for God’s Best! thanks for sharing this :) setting our standards a notch higher.. for we are worth it as precious child/princess of God :)

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  • sunshinysaige
    on Sep 19, 2012
    at 11:24 pm

    God’s Best for His Princess!❤ thank you for this blog. i’ll be sharing this to my friends.ü God bless you more and more.ü

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  • Jackie
    on Sep 20, 2012
    at 10:02 am

    so nice that I land on this blog and this helps me to understand the reason of being single, I’m hoping and praying as well for God’s perfect worthy gift in the future. God bless ms. Fel & ur family c”,)

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  • kristine
    on Oct 29, 2012
    at 10:25 pm

    i like! =) thank u for sharing this for us singles that waiting for God’s best. i believe it’s worth waiting for. Godbless po. =)

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  • leila
    on Oct 30, 2012
    at 1:59 am

    thanks for sharing! as a single lady, I know that God will give me His best choice of man for me. Keeping myself in faith….please include me in your prayer.

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  • Flordeliza Magsombol
    on Nov 04, 2012
    at 10:03 pm

    Thanks so much for this article! Very apt to be read by women. GB is a favor from GOD. That’s why it is worth the wait.:)

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    • cbnasiaprayercenter
      on Nov 05, 2012
      at 7:28 am

      Hello Flordeliza,

      We are happy that you are blessed with this article. It is our prayer that many more people will be blessed and set free by reading testimonies of the goodness of God. God bless you!

      Reply
  • tara
    on Nov 15, 2012
    at 3:13 am

    thank you sooo much for your wonderful message..i cant believe that you translate the bible verse into a very simple yet inspiring words for all the single gurls out there like me…but im sooo proud to say that this time i will conduct a serious observation to my best partner in life, which he will guide me and our family in God’s way..thank you and God bless

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  • jane
    on Feb 05, 2013
    at 9:49 am

    article about all the single ladies ladies is so inspiring, we as ladies should be willing to wait for God’s Best patiently.:)

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  • blink
    on Feb 05, 2013
    at 10:53 am

    thanks for this article… it helps me and other ladies to find and wait for the will of God. Although its difficult to wait, but if we truly have faith and trust in Jesus and keep His promise that all things have perfect time..Nothing will be impossible..we meet our right partner at the right place and at the right time.

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  • raychel
    on Feb 07, 2013
    at 12:40 pm

    thank you for this message..truly its very difficult to wait..been single for 4yrs and waiting for God’s Best i know God will never fail me coz He knows my heart and as i follow Him He will truly faithful to give the desire of my heart…God’s Best is more than what we think of..Thank you!!:) God is Good.

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  • Rachel S. Patriarca
    on Mar 01, 2013
    at 6:33 pm

    Thank you for this article, I’m willing to wait my GB coz God has a perfect time for everything and He is never a second late:-) We must enjoy serving the Lord with all our heart while waiting, I believed, it pays to wait:-) God bless

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