Are you searching for your future spouse? I once was and I was taken aback when I learned that we do not have to preoccupy ourselves with seeking them out. Adam was asleep when Eve was brought to him! We are commanded to seek the Matchmaker Himself while He may be found. He knows best and will guide us step by step.
As I put the Maker first, I began to understand myself, what He made in me. I began to see my real needs and this affected my criteria for a suitable partner. I used to be limited to catching someone tall, not necessarily dark, handsome, sweet, and drives a car. Then slowly but surely, it began to matter that he got along with my parents, with his parents, that he shared my love for Jesus, that he would be a good father, and so forth and so on. Through prayer and reading Scripture, I was introduced to God’s design for men and this served as an indispensible guide in the selection process.
Recently, I was blessed to find out that my own teenage daughter looks to Scripture as well to shape her parameters in choosing a future mate. I thought her insights would bless other single ladies. As her mom, this also helps make my prayers for her future spouse more specific. I asked permission to share and lift portions of her latest blog entry titled, “Guidelines for A King.”
What I realized recently is that everyone has soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are more like personal preferences, the things I would prefer my GB having. But the hard limits are the ones that he has to have, the things that God requires from any man looking to be his dream girl’s God’s Best.
Going back to my really cool realization… the memory of my GB list came along because of my recent discovery in the book of Deuteronomy. (Did that just rhyme? LOL) Just like my GB list, I came upon a list of guidelines that the Lord handed to Moses regarding the future kings of Israel. And while I was reading God’s guidelines, it felt like the words were popping out of my Bible and into my train of thought, while God was directly translating it into what our (all women) hard limits should be.
So, this should be interesting. Although the heading for this portion in Deuteronomy chapter 17 was titled “Guidelines for a King,” a king as defined is a ruler of state—authority—just as all husbands will be the future heads of their homes. Seems like an okay comparison, yes? Well, without further ado…
Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you God’s set hard limits for selecting/being a GB. Selection for women, and the being, for men.
|Scripture Verse||“God’s Best” Translation|
|14 You are about to enter the land the Lord your God is giving you. When you take it over and settle there, you may think, ‘We should select a king to rule over us like the other nations around us.’||14 When you get older, you may begin to think that it is already time to find your God’s Best.|
|15 If this happens, be sure to select as king the man the Lord your God chooses. You must appoint a fellow Israelite; he may not be a foreigner.||15 Should this happen, be sure that you select as God’s Best the man the Lord your God chooses. You must choose a fellow believer.|
|16 The king must not build up a large stable of horses for himself or send his people to Egypt to buy horses, for the Lord has told you, ‘You must never return to Egypt.’||16 He must not surround himself by people who will influence him to give in to the desires of the flesh.|
|17 The king must not take many wives for himself, because they will turn his heart away from the Lord. And he must not accumulate large amounts of wealth in silver and gold for himself.||17 He must not have had unresolved relationships in the past or any relationship that displeases the Lord at the present, because this will turn his heart away from the Lord. Money should never be an issue.|
|18 When he sits on the throne as king, he must copy for himself this body of instruction on a scroll in the presence of the Levitical priests.||18 As he takes the position of the head of your household, he must carry God’s Word with him.|
|19 He must always keep that copy with him and read it daily as long as he lives. That way he will learn to fear the Lord his God by obeying all the terms of these instructions and decrees.||19 And he has to read it every single day for as long as he lives. That way, he will fear the Lord his God, and will obey all He has commanded.|
|20 This regular reading will prevent him from becoming proud and acting as if he is above his fellow citizens. It will also prevent him from turning away from these commands in the smallest way. And it will ensure that he and his descendants will reign for many generations in Israel.||20 It will keep him from becoming proud and acting like he is better than everyone else. It will also keep him from disobeying the Lord even with the smallest commands. And this will ensure that your children and your children’s children will be raised well, and will excel in everything that they do.|
I honestly found the first few parts a bit easier to find, but the latter part about having someone who read the Bible every single day is something that I know is going to be a little more difficult, because there aren’t much who do. I struggle to read the Bible almost every day! (Especially when I was reading Numbers HUHUHU) But I have high hopes and will start to pray for more of us to continue reading the Bible. Include me in your prayers, too! Maybe for some of you, that’s all you’re lacking in God’s list of hard limits!
Just something interesting that God taught me today… Have a great week ahead! 🙂
Felichi Pangilinan-Buizon, co-host of The 700 Club Asia, is a homeschooling mom, gospel songwriter, and seminar speaker on parenting and early childcare. She is involved in the ministry of teaching at her local church, Christ’s Commission Fellowship. She welcomes your messages and comments at firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow her on Twitter: @FelichiOfficial