May-December Romance

Mature Guy asks:

I’m dating a woman who is 20 years younger than me. We both have jobs, and a life planned ahead of us. Our age difference never became a concern since we truly love each other.

Sooner or later, I have to meet her parents to ask for their daughter’s hand in marriage. How should I approach them to make them feel at ease with me? How do I prepare myself in marriage with a younger woman?

The CBN Asia Prayer Center says:

As you plan your life ahead, consider this first: How is your relationship with her parents? When courting a woman, you don’t just capture her heart, but the hearts of her family as well. You should be able to fully get their trust and affirmation in your relationship with their daughter.

The only way to do this is to spend more time with them. Remember that in a relationship, it’s not just the two of you. And in marriage, as they say, when you marry a woman, you marry her family as well. You have to reflect on how her family sees you, not just so you could make a good impression but to genuinely seek for their approval.

Parents have a special discernment in relationship matters. You would have to work hard to earn their confidence. Show them that their daughter can find security in you and that you’re responsible enough to take care of her. You should approach them with truthfulness. Never make promises that you cannot fulfill. Be confident enough to assure them yet don’t overdo it.

Couples with huge age gaps face serious challenges. You may have to work for your relationship every single day as your patience, understanding, and temper will be greatly tested. Sometimes it’s not just the age difference that causes conflicts, rather the failure to meet at a certain point. Make sure you’re open enough to discuss issues and come up with possible ways to resolve them.

Lastly, be transparent with other people. Sharing your issues and challenges to other people will give you new insights and sometimes frees you from uncertainties. Aside from thinking and planning about your relationship, the best thing to do is pray. In the Bible, Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Our Lord will give you the grace and capability to work things out as you ask Him for strength and wisdom through prayer.

GOT A TOUGH QUESTION?

Having trouble making decisions? Need some advice on your relationship? Someone is eager to hear from you at the CBN Asia Prayer Center. You can call them 24/7 at 810-7176 or 810-7717 (for Metro Manila residents) or email them at prayforme@cbnasia.org

8 Comments

  • Jose Trianie Perez

    very nicely said…thank you.

  • thanks 700 prayer club for inspiring us… can i access a replay for all the past episodes of 700 Club? thanks and more power .

  • my relation with my long time gf is a bit complicated. Married ako pero hiwalay na for 12 years and yung wife ko nagasawa na ng iba sa amerika. How should I deal w/ this. Open at kilala ang gf ko sa side ng mga friends at some relatives of mine pero hindi sa side niya. Kailaangan ko rin ng kaagapay sa buhay & I am not getting any younger.

  • Sis Jho

    This revelations helps me a lot… me and my fiancee will soon to tie a knot by January 2015, we do have struggles especially sa attitude ng isa’t isa di kami ganun ka open but i Thank God unti unti niya kami inaayos especially sa family side ko. thou’ I am 23 and He is 35.. Thanks for this wonderful message.. :)

    • Hello Jho, thanks for reading our post. it is really important to let God be the center of your relationship. Though you have differences in your relationship, the love of God will enable you to grow in His knowledge and wisdom that will help build your relationship deeper and stronger. Always delight the Lord in your relationship and He will give the desires of your heart, (Psalm 37:4). And He will bless you more than you ask or imagine as it is written in Ephesians 3:20 that says,” Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,”.

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